I watched a lot of cartoons and movies. I draw incessantly and carry a sketchbook everywhere. I work in animation and self-publish my books. There are monsters in the streets, don't wear red. Mad bulls and monsters hate that color. I still watch cartoons.

Saturday, March 25, 2006

Rogelio del Carmen (1934-2006)



He played softball in High School. And he had the most exquisite handwriting script a man has a right to brandish. He wanted to be a doctor but his father's fortunes and inclinations were so that this was never to be. He joined the U.S. Navy and was processed through to ship out when it was uncovered that he had a family already and was released back into Cavite City, the town around Sangley Point that was my birthplace.

My father had his share of good luck but not enough for anyone who knows his history to volunteer that he was a lucky man. He did, however, struggle with the fates to provide for his family and let me tell you, it was a struggle.

Life in the U.S. eventually found us all reunited to be a family again, although it was only going to be five years later that the first of many health challenges would rear its ugly head. Fifteen years later it was much worse. We wished him a release from it many times. Many times we'd blink that thought back because he'd get better and shame on us for even grazing the notion.

Why, just these past months it was the best we've seen him in so long. Perhaps this is that place where there's no way but up. But maybe it was just to show us how strong he is and what kind of fight he can still muster. This past Saturday, at 3 a.m. in the morning, my father slipped away quietly.

Even though I'll never be half the man he was in life, he has given me more than I'll ever need for mine. Good-bye, dad. You're my hero. Forever.


I try to sketch my dad when I visit him. I did a sketch when his kidney failed not knowing that in the coming years those hospital sketches will be the only drawings of my father I'll ever do. These are the last three I've done of him from last year. The first one was after he had recovered from a very serious infection. The next two shows him as he gained weight and a lot of his old self was visible again.




68 Comments:

Blogger Chad Kerychuk said...

Ronnie,

I'm deeply sorry to hear about the loss of your father. The photos, and your sketches say so much. I'm sure he was very proud of all that you have accomplished and can now look upon his family without fear of illness or suffering.

Thoughts to your entire family and friends of your father.

12:47 AM

 
Blogger Michael said...

Ronnie, you don't know me, but I check out your blog regularly. I will spare you the usual platitudes and just say, I am sorry for your loss and hope your dad finds some peace and respite wherever he may now reside. Best wishes,
Michael

12:57 AM

 
Anonymous Pascal said...

M Thoughts go to you and your family Ronnie.

1:48 AM

 
Blogger ThatDarnViking said...

Having bid adieu to my father, I can say, its a tough row to hoe. You have my deepest sympathies. I hope you can find solace in friends, family and work. 5 years on, I have rewritten some of the movie of my relationship with my Pa. But the core of him will always remain intact and vital in my imagination.
Sympathy and blessings to you and yours,
Eric Hedman

4:12 AM

 
Blogger Monkeyfeather said...

Very sorry to hear about the loss of your father. My thoughts are with you and your family.

john

6:52 AM

 
Blogger Karen said...

My condolences. I too have lost my father. My thoughts and sympathy are with you.

7:12 AM

 
Anonymous Ronald Salas said...

I'm very sorry to hear about your loss. My condolences and thoughts go out to you and your family.

7:50 AM

 
Blogger Nicole said...

I am so sorry to hear this. All the best to you and your family...

7:59 AM

 
Blogger michaelmotorcycle said...

i am so sorry to hear about your dad. take good care of yourself, and be well.

xm

8:21 AM

 
Blogger Santy GutiĆ©rrez said...

I'm deeply sorry. I'm sure your father is as proud of you as you are of your father.
Sincere best wishes from Spain.

10:29 AM

 
Blogger Kei Acedera said...

what a beautiful man.

10:43 AM

 
Blogger ric carrasquillo said...

I'm sorry Ronnie. If you need anything I can give, let me know.

11:08 AM

 
Blogger RoboTaeKwon-Z said...

Ronnie, my thoughts and prayers are with you. I am so sorry.

11:22 AM

 
Blogger pbcbstudios said...

r - a great man. our thoughts and prayers are with you.
pb&cb

11:24 AM

 
Blogger redhen said...

I am so sorry to read this today, Ronnie. My heart goes out to you and your family. Take care - this is a hard time, and will be for awhile.

Nancy

2:55 PM

 
Anonymous Bob Logan said...

I came to visit (your blog) to thank you for showing me 'Flipbook', when I discovered your latest post. Our thoughts and prayers are with you and your family. The photos and sketches portray a very noble and dignified man.

All the best during this difficult time.

Regards,

The Logan family

3:51 PM

 
Blogger amelia said...

I am so sorry to hear this news Ronnie. My condolences to you and your family. Take care of yourself.

a

6:19 PM

 
Blogger Jenny said...

Ronnie, I read your lovely words first, and after seeing the photographs at the top of your post, I was so moved...then I scroll down and see the drawings-even more beautiful. The connection that flows between you in the drawings you did in the hospital, capturing your father's dignity and strength--that is what I take away from seeing them. They--your drawings--are a prayer of sorts as well. And of course mine go out to you and your family. Take care.

6:28 PM

 
Blogger J said...

My thoughts go to you and yours Ronnie. Take care of each other.

J

8:29 PM

 
Blogger Marlo Meekins said...

My main goal in life is to remain genuine to friends and people around me. this post is honest and true and i'm moved and really impressed.....

thanks so much for sharing!!!

9:15 PM

 
Anonymous Anonymous said...

I am very sorry to hear of your loss, Mr. Del Carmen. It's sounds like he was a tremendous man indeed.

My sympathies to you and yours.

Thank you for sharing...

J. Scott

10:21 PM

 
Blogger Raymond Xu said...

I'm sorry to hear about this tragic news, My condolences to you and your family. I 've witnessed two of my best friends' fathers passed away, who were as good as my own, and I wish you all the best in this time of mourning.

-rx

10:41 PM

 
Blogger Tom Dougherty said...

Ronnie, we don't know each other, but I've followed your blog forever, it seems.

I'm so sorry to hear about your father. My best to you and your family. He sounds like a wonderful dad. Your drawings of him show a lot of love.

Take care.

10:54 PM

 
Anonymous sora said...

My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family.
I learnt from your words and sketches that your father has been a great person.

11:14 PM

 
Anonymous kazu said...

My condolences, Ronnie. He was lucky to have a son that respected him so much in life.

2:53 AM

 
Blogger Stef said...

I'm deeply sorry to hear about your loss Ronnie, my thoughts to you and your family,
Stephane

4:53 AM

 
Blogger Clay Kaytis said...

I'm sorry for you loss. You and your family are in my thoughts.

7:25 AM

 
Blogger DiegoFer said...

very sorry to hear this news. I hope you and your family find the strenght to keep living your lifes and learn the lessons your father taught you all. Take care.

8:41 AM

 
Blogger Uncle Phil said...

Sorry to hear, Ronnie.
-phil

9:31 AM

 
Anonymous J_Swick said...

Ronnie,
So sorry.
Jason

12:24 PM

 
Blogger Newsquirt said...

Ronnie, my condolences to you and your family at this time of loss. Peace be with your dad.

best regards
~jason

3:21 PM

 
Anonymous amid said...

I also posted this on your brother's blog...
I'm sorry to hear of your loss. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family. Reading yours and Louie's posts, it seems that your father gave a lot of himself so that his children could have a bright future. Truly, a life well-lived and worth celebrating.

4:43 PM

 
Anonymous Ali said...

I'm so sorry to hear that your father has passed away Ronnie, my thoughts are with you and your family.

4:58 PM

 
Blogger Patrick Morgan said...

Ronnie,

I am deeply sorry to hear about the passing of your father. My thoughts and prayers go out to you and your family.

with deepest sympathy,
Patrick

7:11 PM

 
Blogger gabedozer said...

Ronnie,

Those drawings are very touching, and moving.

Thank you for the small picture of his life, and I wish the best for you and your family.

My thoughts and prayers are with you.

Sincerely,
Gabriel
Austin, TX.

9:04 PM

 
Blogger SMacLeod said...

I've never been more touched by a post before. Thanks for sharing that, and my best wishes to you and your family.

4:31 AM

 
Blogger Sanvi said...

I'm deeply sorry, Ronnie. Take care.

8:07 AM

 
Blogger "E"rik James Olsen said...

I'm sorry for your lost Ronnie my thoughts and prayers for you and your family....

Take Care.

10:27 AM

 
Anonymous will said...

We're very sorry to hear this Ronnie. Please know that the online community is with you.

11:03 AM

 
Blogger Silvana said...

I'm not very religious but I thought of this quote upon hearing of your loss.

Blessed are they that mourn, for they shall be comforted.
-Matthew 5:4


I am terribly sorry for you and your family's loss.
-Silvana

1:27 PM

 
Blogger The Moth said...

R -

Thank you for sharing this -- I am very sorry to hear of it. I hope these notes of condolence bring you & the family some comfort. We'll be thinking of you.

-Moth

1:37 PM

 
Blogger jimmyjames said...

Ronnie-

I was very sorry to read about your father's passing. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family at this time.

Jamie
-

1:48 PM

 
Blogger drawingmachine said...

Ronnie,

My condolences to you and your family.
I emailed you before and you gave me great pointers on storyboarding.

Louie E.

1:48 PM

 
Anonymous Anonymous said...

My condolences to you and your family on the tragedy in the family.

3:33 PM

 
Anonymous Anonymous said...

My condolences to you and your family on the tragedy in the family.

3:33 PM

 
Blogger Jeremy Mace said...

Sorry for your loss. I will be praying for you and your family.

5:39 PM

 
Anonymous rafael said...

I am sorry to hear about your father. Your family is in my thoughts and prayers.

7:15 PM

 
Blogger donnachada said...

Ronnie, I am very sorry to hear of your loss. Thoughts and prayers go to you and your family.
D.

12:38 AM

 
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Ronnie, my blessings to you and your family. May your hearts be filled with hope, harmony and love during this difficult time.

8:59 AM

 
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Steph

*HUGS*

4:48 PM

 
Blogger aoisart said...

Thank you to have shared this tribute to your father. My sincere condolences to you and your family.

9:26 AM

 
Blogger Anita said...

Ronnie (en famile),

I am so sorry to hear about your loss. All my love to you and your family. I hope you can take comfort in memories and each other. Your post was beautiful as were your sketches.

4:13 PM

 
Blogger Shawn said...

This is my first time here, but I had to leave a message letting you know how profoundly touched I am by your words and pictures.

6:43 PM

 
Anonymous button said...

Ronnie, I don't know you 'in person', but I know what it feels like to lose a father. My heart is with you. All the best and my deepest condolences.

6:44 PM

 
Blogger Chad said...

Ronnie, I'm so sorry to hear this, I love my father as much. Bless you and your family.

Chad Townsend
Texas

11:22 AM

 
Blogger Alina Chau said...

Ronnie,

My deepest condolences to you and your family. Your words and pictures of your father are filled with love and precious memories. He must be very proud of you. Best wishes.

Peace,

Alina

3:20 PM

 
Blogger Youngberg! said...

Ronnie,
I can only offer my condolences. I hope that you find any peace of mind that you may seek during this difficult time.

2:00 PM

 
Blogger Clio said...

Very sorry to hear about this, Ronnie - but it sounds like he was very much loved and that's the best anyone can hope for! And what beautiful impressions of your father.

9:28 PM

 
Blogger Daniel said...

That was a touching tribute to your father. Condolences to you and your family.

11:41 AM

 
Blogger Lee-Roy said...

Ronnie,

I just posted a comment on your brother's blog as well. Our thoughts are with you and your family. Thanks for the sketches and insight into your father's life.

Lee-Roy

11:55 AM

 
Blogger Ward Jenkins said...

My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family, Ronnie. I heard about your father's passing from someone leaving me a comment on my post about my oma passing away. He seemed like a remarkable man. Very sorry for your loss.

Peace,
Ward.

8:32 PM

 
Blogger Ronnie said...

My sincerest gratitude to all who posted and sent us well wishes. I have to let you all know that all the words and kind thoughts sent to our family meant so much to us. Grief and loss can damage us as it goes through and without your support it would have been quite severe. I arrived on the other side of our farewell to my dad in better health because of these posts. I shared them with my family every day last week.

I count myself very lucky to have all of you to support me through all this. I am also very happy that I got to introduce my father to all of you. He would have loved this and very likely happy to know it.

On behalf of my family, I thank you.


Sincerely,
Ronnie

5:46 PM

 
Blogger cat said...

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12:13 PM

 
Blogger cat said...

Hi Ronnie,

I wanted to quietly slip in and offer my condolences as well. I want to say I'm sorry for your loss and that I understand because I lost my father as well.

Your words to your father are beautiful, thank you for sharing that with all of us.

-Catia

12:16 PM

 
Blogger MehmetSaygin said...

I am so sorry to hear that :( I am sure your hero was proud of you.

1:23 PM

 
Blogger bleupencil said...

My deepest sympathies and best wishes to you and your family.

7:15 PM

 
Anonymous Joel Chua said...

Mabuhay po kayo Ronnie.

3:36 AM

 
Blogger sock puppet said...

HI,Ron my deepest condolances to you & your family. I never had the pleasure of meeting your father, but in a sense by meeting you and Louie, both of you are quality people and that,does not happen by chance. After all, when everything is said and done, my pa says " we are all reflections of those that raised us." Clearly you both represent your Father well.

THank you for sharing.

Se G

3:59 PM

 

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